I’ll be honest with you guys, I had a completely different blog post going up today but I decided to put it on hold because I felt that this was more important. Last week I went on a rant on Instastories (shameless plug: give ya girl a follow if you haven’t already) about my current acne situation. The IG story is long gone now but to sum it up for you, I was pretty much venting about how acne can have a detrimental effect on your self perception and how some people have a complete disregard of your feelings when addressing it. It’s downright annoying that we have to resort to sassy remarks to get people to back off. “Yes Debra, I drink plenty of water and no I didn’t ask for your tips on acne.”
Lately I have been feeling so defeated and unattractive because no matter how much I invest in skincare, my skin just continues to break out. It doesn’t matter how many layers of foundation I pile on to hide acne related insecurities, it’s all there, seemingly worse than before when I wipe it off at the end of the night. As hard as it is for me to put myself out there as a content creator, it’s even harder for me to display my imperfections for the world to see. I’m sure we all have our own insecurities that come and go, but there’s just something about acne that cripples confidence.
With that being said, I curated these 5 life tips that I run to when I feel like my acne is getting the best of me:
1. Accept the fact that it’s unfair
I know, it’s hard. Your best friend falls asleep with makeup on nearly every weekend yet has flawless skin, but when you do it you’re not as lucky. I get it and I got quite a few of those friends (y’all know who you are and I’m jealous damnit). So many factors play into your skin’s condition including genetics, diet, stress, and more. What’s making your neighbor breakout might not be the same reason you’re breaking out.
2. Find comfort in the stats
As of 2017, there are 60 million people suffering with acne. 60 MILLION. I literally can’t even process what that number looks like. It’s so easy to feel as though you’re the only one breaking out, but it’s a lot more common than you think! Oh- and if you think those people you see on TV are somehow exempt from said 60 million, you are mistaken. Everyone at some point experiences a not-so-great skin day. Click here for more stats!
3. Find someone you can vent to
Acne can have a significant impact on your self-esteem. Waking up to the same acne spots or worse: new ones, can affect your day to day mood. You need someone who you can confide in about how your acne makes you feel. Whenever I feel hopeless I make sure to vent to either my boyfriend or my cousins because I just feel better after I get all of those thoughts out. Even if you don’t want to talk to someone just yet, writing it out can help too.
4. You don’t have to entertain advice you never asked for
Acne is so personal and its causes cannot be determined on a whim. Comments like “omg just get that $200 facial every month and it’ll go away” or “omg stop wearing so much makeup it’s ruining your skin” (which is a myth btw, click here for more) after a not-so-discreet glance at your peeking hormonal acne should blow right off your shoulder. I’m not saying that people who say some sort of variation of this don’t mean well, but if you didn’t confide in them about your acne troubles then I’m sure you didn’t ask for their vague and often misinformed opinions on how to treat it.
5. Don’t let your acne define you
Breaking news: Your personality doesn’t get acne! You are still the amazing person that you are despite those blemishes. Good people can see past the texture, the scars, the marks, shit, through it all! Anyone that makes you feel less-than for experiencing something so common (refer to tip #2) doesn’t deserve you.
We all wish there was a magical, instant cure for those pesky blemishes but technology just ain’t there yet. All we can do keep it from becoming our identity. I was so overwhelmed with how many of you on Instagram understood where I was coming from, I hope you find comfort in this post and know that you’re not alone. What do you do when you’re feeling down about your acne or post acne marks? Share your tips below!